Do you always envy those who are thin?
At least I am.
“I can eat whatever I want and I won’t gain weight.”
“I don’t restrain myself at all, but I still don’t gain weight.”
Hearing them say this, I truly feel envious from the bottom of my heart, and I want to be like them.
However, during my weight loss journey, I noticed the difference between “desire-driven” and “desire-based” people.
Most of us overweight people are desire-driven. We live according to our body’s needs, not based on them. Desires like “I want to eat that thing they advertise on TV!” are the source of our energy. Therefore, desire-driven people are energetic.
On the other hand, most people who are consistently thin are desire-based. Because their desires aren’t very strong, while their body’s demands are too intense, they don’t easily perceive their own desires. Therefore, desire-based people often give off a noble feeling and are relatively passive.
This isn’t a question of who is right or wrong.
People with a “desire-driven” personality can eat whatever they want without easily gaining weight. This is because their bodies send out “enough, stop!” signals before they even reach the point of weight gain.
People with a “craving-driven” personality generally ignore their body’s needs, only following their own desires, always indulging in immediate pleasure, and therefore are prone to weight gain.
People with a “craving-driven” personality gain weight unconsciously, while people with a “desire-driven” personality lose weight unconsciously. Neither type is entirely under their own control.
People with a “desire-driven” personality are always governed by their body’s needs, while people with a “craving-driven” personality are governed by their inner desires. Both are no different from slaves.
It just so happens that today’s society is an era that values thinness, which is advantageous to people with a “desire-driven” personality because they are always thin. If times change and people consider fat people more reliable, then people with a “craving-driven” personality will have an advantage. Thin people will probably be struggling with how to gain weight, ignoring their body’s needs and overeating.
We only want to be thin because it has advantages. Once times change and gaining weight becomes mandatory, those of us who have gone through record-breaking diets can gain as much weight as we want without difficulty.
Because we can control ourselves.
We are neither driven by desire nor by wants, but rather by a balance between the two.
Take company management as an analogy. The body’s signals are like the current production status, and desires are like the sales plan; undoubtedly, both are crucial pieces of information.
If the current production status is prioritized, the company’s efficiency will gradually decline; in other words, the company will become “leaner and leaner.”
Only by blindly following the opinions of marketing personnel, no amount of staff will be enough, and the scale of operations will become enormous.
Management should listen to both sides and make decisions.
Listening to the voices from both desire and wants, and deciding what to do, is your responsibility. This is self-control.
Listen to the signals from your body and keep your body within a healthy range.
However, your judgment will also allow you to hear the voices of desire, such as “I want to eat this” or “I want to have this kind of figure.”
The weight loss tracking is over; you should now have full control over your physique.
Want to lose even more weight? Building muscle is also possible.
The tracking is like training wheels on a bicycle. You use them when you can’t ride alone yet, but once you’re in control, you can remove them anytime.
If you suddenly feel, “I seem to be losing control lately!” you can put the training wheels back on.
